peas and carrots.
"From that day on, we was always together. Jenny and me was like peas and carrots." ~Forrest Gump
When i first viewed this film and heard this particular line, i couldn't help but smile. for i had my very own peas and carrots relationship.
Stephen and i met even before we started school. our mom's were best friends (and still are to this day). Stephen and i were pretty much inseparable. i recall countless hours spent in his room, the walks home from school, at coffee shops (the rare moments we both had money) just talking. about anything, from weather, to sports, to why our dad's just didn't understand us. then of course was our common passion. music. he's a brilliantly talented musician, and made the oboe sound absolutely divine. band trips with him were always a blast.
but there was something different about our relationship. never once did either of us even consider engaging in a romantic relationship. though many assumed there was something more going on, or kept trying to encourage something else (heheh even my sis used to say she wished i'd marry him), we was nothin more than peas and carrots. just a pure, real friendship. i always treated him as my older brother, and he as his sister. and i so appreciated and savored that relationship.
after college, we went our seperate ways, but i was introduced to a whole new band of brothers at bible college. i so appreciated being able to pour my heart out with these guys and just enjoy their company, and hearing what god was doing in and through them.....being able to dream big with them. so very refreshing.
and i miss it. i miss having a big brother in my life. i miss being able to duel and sharpen each other. i miss that other fresh perspective. i miss just being able to encourage each other through a crappy week.
i wanna be just peas and carrots again.
*gets off her soap box and kicks it back into the corner*
posted by Quirkafiably Quirkified @ 6/10/2005 03:54:00 PM
13 Comments:
Q, I have the opposite wish. I am tired of peas and carrots. I want a more deeper relationship. It's hard settling for peas and carrots when you know there's so much more. There's a whole meal. I would really like to kick the peas and carrot thing up a notch. Well actually I would like to kick the peas and carrots in the butt. He He He... I love him though and I really don't want to hurt him, well sometimes,,, but thats another story. A swift smack in the back of the head might do the trick...he he he...
lol thank you for sharin, snoops.
though, i'm not quite sure i understand, or mebbe i'm just cornfuzzled.....you speak of wanting a deeper relationship. all of my peas and carrots relationships were deep. yeah we could shoot the breeze and talk about the weather, politics, pastor's crazy tie.....but we still dove deep into heart matters, sharpened each other, inspired, encouraged, and challenged each other.
and that's what i miss.
Q, I guess I am talking about marriage. And thus far it's just been hi how are ya kinda stuff. Actually God's been dealing with me on issues about true friendship and what that means. So suppose it's not time for marriage after all LOL... I am getting old here LOL
solo, I miss the true friendship stuff period. I have not had a close friend in ages. I had a female friend for 10 years and then all of a sudden I some how offended her and she really couldnt give me any reasons why.She also had steady boyfriend at the time soo.... I apoligized and we havent spoken in about 3 years. SO here I am ...actually i can relate...:o)
solomom...
i'm currently cultivating some "true deep" female relationships in my life...and i'm soo very grateful for my sisters.
yeah, the risk of being burned again is there, but some things are worth taking a chance on, as a friend of mine said to me a couple of years ago. i can definately relate to ya....i've spent most of the last 5 years with my guard (and my "standards"...mainly driven out of fear) up way high, wearing the "all is well" mask. it's only been in the last year that i've been able to reach out, be vulnerable, and trust my sisters. *sigh* what a relief.
i'd like to stretch further and cultivate the same type of relationship with a guy. no romance, no marriage, no lust....just a brother.
lol snoops, yer far from old, chickadee! but i understand what you mean by the typical "hi, how are ya" standard. we've been trained by society to keep things superficial...act like you've got it all together, but whatever you do, don't let them see the real you! *feigns shock and awe*
well ya know what? i'm sick of superficiality. it's no different than a hamster spinning round in a cage. bah. forget that mess.
if you're lookin for some iron, feel free to bug me anytime :)
~Q
Hey Q, do you know who I am? I was there Thursday night. and I think you sat along side of me outside, well u were laying down. I am stil trying to put names and faces together. Just wanted to make sure I know who you people are LOL
and solomom do you go to h2o?, I was there thursday, i didnt realize how much I missed seeing you guys and do you and Q both go to pods?
Shell :o)
yeah, i knew it was you, shells...and ya got the right quirkster (nuffin like laying in the grass on a beautiful summer's evenin :))
i haven't been able to attend pods because they've fallen on the weekends i have to work....that changes now....i think i can make pods until august, then it switches again. but given the holidays coming up, pods are cancelled....hmmmm perhaps i'm not supposed to be at pods *wicked lil grin as she lightly taps her fingers to her lips, contemplating that last statement*
time will tell.
i wanted to go to pods last week but i chicken'd out... didnt know what i was gettin into LOL
So where do you live? I am down here in Dover PA. I bummed a ride from ben and papa B. I dont care for the drivin long distance stuff. but ya gotta do what ya gotta do when ya need to... Perhaps we can meet and get a coffee of something frozen to drink.
and this Every womans battle book is there like a set chapter kind of schedule we r supposed to read?
This would have been good about 15 yrs ago but now is good too LOL
guess thats all for now
Shell
i'm currently east shore....waayyyy east shore. looking to relocate somewher along the west shore next month, just have no clue where yet. if i don't have a place lined up, i'll be crashing with my sis for a bit, a mere stone's throw from papa b. (well, maybe a bit more than a stone's throw, but you get the idea ;))
would love to meet up for a beverage sometime, if you're up for it. lemme know.
as far as every woman's battle....from what i understand is the first and third thursdays are when we'll be discussing the book, and i think they're planning on discussing two chapters each session (hence 3 and 4 last week)....so to kick off july i think we're doing 5&6...at least that's how i understand it. heather or rae would be more knowledgable than lil ol me. might wanna double check with them :)
well dear I am just over the hill from ma & pa B. About 10 minutes.
I am not familiar with east and west shore locations LOL SO if ya said a particular landmark I might know where ya r... or maybe not LOL
So let me know when and where for drinks.
peace
no solomom we have not met, it would be cool to meet you though. What is your first name? I am Michelle you can call me Shell or whatever :o)
Ahhh.. I have/had a peas and carrots friend.. that was Shawn. I call him my "best friend from birth". We have been friends since I was about 6months old. He lived across the street from me, and he used to "warm my potty seat" for me before I went to the bathroom, and read my stories while i went .. tmi? LOL We had a brief (like 2 hrs brief) boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but i was afraid of losing the friendship... and we were like 12. Often times, I wish i would have pursued more with him.. and had a really hard time when he got married. He was "my Shawn" you know? Kind of like "my best friend's wedding".. I was Jules.. though not skinny, and hair not as long.. but anyway, you get the picture. I miss the friendship we once had..some of my best memories are of our time together. I should tell him that. We are still friends, but we dont see each other all that much, and I feel more like an intrusion now.. he has his wife, and darling son. I still have my memories though.
snoops, feel free to bug me smiies_78@yahoo.com
heather, thank you for sharing. i understand what you mean by feeling like an intrusion...i have another relationship...well, it wasn't healthy. basically after playing cat and mouse for a couple of years, this guy chose another girl over me. but he was still a good friend, and genuinely cared about me, especially through my parents divorce. he's happily married with kids now. but i have often thought about letting him know how much i appreciate his friendship, especially during the divorce.....but after all this time, mebbe it's best to let sleeping dogs lie, ya know?
bah, enough of my babble.
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